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10 Painfully Obvious Truths Everyone Forgets Too Soon
The average human life is relatively short that's a really painful obvious truth for most of the people.
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Benjamin McAvoy
11/4/20248 min read


10 Painfully Obvious Truths Everyone Forgets Too Soon
Everyone in This world want to forget obvious truths. By: Marc and Angel You know how you can hear something a hundred times in a hundred different ways before it finally gets through to you? The ten truths listed below fall firmly into that category â life lessons that many of us likely learned years ago, and have been reminded of ever since, but for whatever reason, havenât fully grasped.
This, my friends, is my attempt at helping all of us, myself included, âget itâ and âremember itâ once and for allâŠ
1. The average human life is relatively short that's a really painful obvious truth for most of the people.
We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. Itâs like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step. You expected there to be one more stair than there is, and so you find yourself off balance for a moment, before your mind shifts back to the present moment and how the world really is. Mostly people want to forget obvious truths very soon.
LIVE your life TODAY! Donât ignore death, but donât be afraid of it either. Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take action. Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside you while youâre still alive. Be bold. Be courageous. Be scared to death, and then take the next step anyway. Therefore it's important to remember all the obvious truths.
2. You will only ever live the life you create for yourself. Your life is yours alone. Others can try to persuade you, but they canât decide for you. They can walk with you, but not in your shoes. So make sure the path you decide to walk aligns with your own intuition and desires, and donât be scared to switch paths or pave a new one when it makes sense. Everyone in this world tries to forget all obvious truths.
Remember, itâs always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you donât. Be productive and patient. And realize that patience is not about waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in. This is your life, and it is made up entirely of your choices. May your actions speak louder than your words. May your life preach louder than your lips. May your success be your noise in the end.
And if life only teaches you one thing, let it be that taking a passionate leap is always worth it. Even if you have no idea where youâre going to land, be brave enough to step up to the edge of the unknown, and listen to your heart. (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the âPassion and Growthâ chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
3. Being busy does NOT mean being productive.
Busyness isnât a virtue, nor is it something to respect. Though we all have seasons of crazy schedules, very few of us have a legitimate need to be busy ALL the time. We simply donât know how to live within our means, prioritize properly, and say no when we should that's a obvious truth of our life.
Being busy rarely equates to productivity these days. Just take a quick look around. Busy people outnumber productive people by a wide margin. Busy people are rushing all over the place, and running late half of the time. Theyâre heading to work, conferences, meetings, social engagements, etc. They barely have enough free time for family get-togethers and they rarely get enough sleep. Yet, emails are shooting out of their smart phones like machine gun bullets, and their day planners are jammed to the brim with obligations. Their busy schedule gives them an elevated sense of importance. But itâs all an illusion. Theyâre like hamsters running on a wheel.
Though being busy can make us feel more alive than anything else for a moment, the sensation is not sustainable long term. There are many obvious truths in our life.We will inevitably, whether tomorrow or on our deathbed, come to wish that we spent less time in the buzz of busyness and more time actually living a purposeful life.
4. Some kind of failure always occurs before success.
Most mistakes are unavoidable. Learn to forgive yourself. Itâs not a problem to make them. Itâs only a problem if you never learn from them. Some obvious truths are very painful to remember.
If youâre too afraid of failure, you canât possibly do what needs to be done to be successful. The solution to this problem is making friends with failure. You want to know the difference between a master and a beginner? The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried. Behind every great piece of art is a thousand failed attempts to make it, but these attempts are simply never shown to us.
Bottom line: Just because itâs not happening now, doesnât mean it never will. Sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right. (Read The Success Principles.)
5. Thinking and doing are two very different things.
Success never comes to look for you while you wait around thinking about it.
You are what you do, not what you say youâll do. Knowledge is basically useless without action. Good things donât come to those who wait; they come to those who work on meaningful goals. Ask yourself whatâs really important and then have the courage to build your life around your answer.
And remember, if you wait until you feel 100% ready to begin, youâll likely be waiting the rest of your life.
6. You donât have to wait for an apology to forgive.
Life gets much easier when you learn to accept all the apologies you never got. The key is to be thankful for every experience â positive or negative. Itâs taking a step back and saying, âThank you for the lesson.â Itâs realizing that grudges from the past are a perfect waste of todayâs happiness, and that holding one is like letting unwanted company live rent free in your head. Some of people remember all the obvious truths in their whole life.
Forgiveness is a promise â one you want to keep. When you forgive someone you are making a promise not to hold the unchangeable past against your present self. It has nothing to do with freeing a criminal of his or her crime, and everything to do with freeing yourself of the burden of being an eternal victim.
7. Some people are simply the wrong match for you.
You will only ever be as great as the people you surround yourself with, so be brave enough to let go of those who keep bringing you down. You shouldnât force connections with people who constantly make you feel less than amazing.
If someone makes you feel uncomfortable and insecure every time youâre with them, for whatever reason, theyâre probably not close friend material. If they make you feel like you canât be yourself, or if they make you âless thanâ in any way, donât pursue a connection with them. If you feel emotionally drained after hanging out with them or get a small hit of anxiety when you are reminded of them, listen to your intuition. There are so many âright peopleâ for you, who energize you and inspire you to be your best self. It makes no sense to force it with people who are the wrong match for you.
8. Itâs not other peopleâs job to love you; itâs yours.
Itâs important to be nice to others, but itâs even more important to be nice to yourself. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. So make sure you donât start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who donât value you. Know your worth, even if they donât.
Today, let someone love you just the way you are â as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as incomplete as you think you are. Yes, let someone love you despite all of this, and let that someone be YOU. (Read Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It.)
9. What you own is not who YOU are.
This is another painful obvious truth. Stuff really is just stuff, and it has absolutely no bearing on who you are as a person. Most of us can make do with much less than we think we need. Thatâs a valuable reminder, especially in a hugely consumer-driven culture that focuses more on material things than meaningful connections and experiences.
You have to create your own culture. Donât watch TV, donât read every fashion magazine, and donât consume too much of the evening news. Find the strength to fill your time with meaningful experiences. The space and time you are occupying at this very moment is LIFE, and if youâre worrying about Kim Kardashian or Lebron James or some other famous face, then you are disempowered. Youâre giving your life away to marketing and media trickery, which is created by big companies to ultimately motivate you to want to dress a certain way, look a certain way, and be a certain way. This is tragic, this kind of thinking. Itâs all just Hollywood brainwashing. What is real is YOU and your friends and your family, your loves, your highs, your hopes, your plans, your fears, etc.
Too often weâre told that weâre not important, weâre just peripheral to what is. âGet a degree, get a job, get a car, get a house, and keep on getting.â And itâs sad, because someday youâll wake up and realize youâve been tricked. And all youâll want then is to reclaim your mind by getting it out of the hands of the brainwashers who want to turn you into a drone that buys everything that isnât needed to impress everyone that isnât important.
10. Everything changes, every second.
Embrace change and realize it happens for a reason. It wonât always be obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it.
What you have today may become what you had by tomorrow. You never know. Things change, often spontaneously. People and circumstances come and go. Life doesnât stop for anybody. It moves rapidly and rushes from calm to chaos in a matter of seconds, and happens like this to people every day. Itâs likely happening to someone nearby right now.
Sometimes the shortest split second in time changes the direction of our lives. A seemingly innocuous decision rattles our whole world like a meteorite striking Earth. Entire lives have been swiveled and flipped upside down, for better or worse, on the strength of an unpredictable event. And these events are always happening.
However good or bad a situation is now, it will change. Thatâs the one thing you can count on. So when life is good, enjoy it. Donât go looking for something better every second. Happiness never comes to those who donât appreciate what they have while they have it. Therefore always remember all the obvious truths of life.
Your turnâŠ
What else would you add to this list? What important life lessons do you often forget? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts.
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